Struggles of our Life

_DSC1070Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot and ground coffee beans in the third pot. He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter.

The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup.
Turning to her, he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?” “Potatoes, eggs and coffee,” she hastily replied.
“Look closer”, he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft.
He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.
“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.
He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity-the boiling water. However, each one reacted differently. The potato went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new. From the Internet….

From the internet

“Which one are you?” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

In life, things happen around us and things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is how you choose to react to it and what you make out of it. Life is all about leaning, adopting and converting all the struggles that we experience into something positive.

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Posted by on September 24, 2015 in Uncategorized


Be the boss


A horse suddenly came galloping quickly down the road. It seemed as though the man had somewhere important to go.

Another man, who was standing alongside the road, shouted, “Where are you going?” and the man on the horse replied,

“I don’t know! Ask the horse!”

Explanation: This is a short but well-known Zen story with a powerful meaning behind it. The horse symbolizes our habit energy. The story explains the way we usually live, at the mercy of our old habit energies which have been established not by our intentional actions, but by our surroundings and mindless activity.

The horse is pulling us along, making us run here and there and hurry everywhere and we don’t even know why. If you stopped to ask yourself from time to time why exactly you’re running around so much, sometimes you might have an answer, but it’s never a very good one. You’re just used to it, it’s how we’re taught to live.

But as much as we run, it gets us nowhere. We need to learn how to take back the reigns and let the horse know who’s boss.

You’re the boss, you’ve always been the boss, so start acting like it.

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Posted by on September 7, 2015 in Uncategorized


Regret a day in life – Do you?

Regret a day in life – Do you?

Never regret a day in your life….

One day I decided to quit… I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality… I wanted to quit my life.

I went to the woods to have one last talk with God. “God”, I said. “Can you give me one good reason not to quit?” His answer surprised me… “Look around”, He said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo?” “Yes”, I replied. “When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said. “In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed.

I would not quit.” He said. “Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant… But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.” He said to me. “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots.

I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. Don’t compare yourself to others.” He said. “The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet, they both make the forest beautiful. Your time will come”, God said to me. “You will rise high!” “How high should I rise?” I asked. “How high will the bamboo rise?” He asked in return. “As high as it can?” I questioned. “Yes.” He said, “Give me glory by rising as high as you can.”

I left the forest and bring back this story.

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Posted by on October 11, 2011 in Stories


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Money, Mixture & waste of time

I still love the 93.5, it drives me crazy. As a city boy growing up in Chennai town, It’s a mixed raising of all the blends in the group. Yet knowing and learning the details were not right in hand.

We were alone as a family, not joint. Infact my whole colony had individual families and we had grown with the match stick touch of so called tradition. Visit temple, take pradakshanams and repeat slokas each one for the ideal idol. Starting with Ganapthy, Saraswathi, Gayathri, Vishu and on… I remember some 18 now… Start the day with a filter coffee (home made), I still made a point to stick to this and I wanted my wife to prepare the best coffee (filter)… damm she managed it with instant and now I got used to it. After this comes the traditional The Hindu, as hot as a filter coffee. I’m always a last page first reader. Along with daily classified and few hot news. (Well, I can call myself a reader).

Hearing the 93.5 became a habit when I used to travel fromMadrastoBangalore&  back, each week for nearly 2 years. I remember, I dint even have a FM (what ever you call the unit) to listen too and I borrowed my friend Sony walkman with tape recorder and have 2 cassettes (S. V Sekhar & Crazy Mohan drama, recorded in one, and Maharajapuram Santhanam’s in the other) hearing them was a heaven, again and again along with the FM. Then I moved on to the Sony mp3 player, Nokia N73 Music Xpress , N93 Mini, Iphone 3, 4 and now a Samsung Galaxy 2. What a waste of money to spend on hearing, but hearing quality songs.

In this practise, I would have spend countless minutes in organizing my sound track, creating customized play-lists and getting my media art ready. Total perfection for unwanted hearing and I’m still not happy with the current one, May be the sound quality, or the hear jack or the equalizer or the way organizing my sound tracks, the 3d effects of tuning music all are a dead craft of the modern era.

Over a period of time, I had to realize that this wasn’t just with my hearing or the new phone that sweeps but with the others things that WE use, We have a handcam, that we should have used twice in a year, uploaded for the sake of using one, bought a hi-fi gadget and used it once, maybe just because we needed for that moment or just because another friend of ours own it.

My friend who is in US, still runs with a Motorola bar phone that can make only calls. (that is what a phone was for?) When he lands toIndia and watch my phone he just grabs a big eye and says, wtf you need this now. His father still uses a BPL Color TV, where we have moved over a Sony LCD, waiting for the LED to capture my eye, the confusion is to buy a LED or 3D LED with Goggles to watch the Doordarshan. With the cable  making its presence in wide range for the last 10 years, Its been the cable recharges for nearly 4000 for 85+ super channels including sports and major news and all we watch over the subscription are POGO and Cartoon Network for my child, running non-stop everyday.

The house renovations are another cause of spending money, one over the other, better over the best and best over some crap….

The so called middle class if fought between the phone and the iphone, the TV and the LCD, the mobile vs an Android touch, the SLR or a point & shoot vs a DSLR, a DVD to a Blue-Ray disk a PSP and a laptop over a tablet and a Rolex at the end to wear it off.

Over a period of time, the statement becomes plain and less powerful. We need to focus onIndiagrowth as a developing country than to buy and waste products like Diwali crackers. Buy and burn. The industry players are very cleaver to just release a model at a time with limited number of features and then release another model with an increment. This isn’t sprint but a way of selling. Take the iphone 4, the features are stupid enough to call it a version. Similarly theN D7000or the D310, Buying a LCD may be great, but without The HD versions of channels lacking all over, Its been a dam halt to watch what we want. The non stable version of the android where the 2.2 is already dead and more and more 2.3 versions are getting developed and Android is releasing one version each day. The developers on the other hand are creating small bugs and making few bucks in just releasing for a specific version and wanting users to try the first to gain control and then speed up.

One of the major reason of being a spend thrift may be due to the card culture. We have forgotten Cash as a object to posses than to posses a object equivalent of cash.

Being a gadget freak is really not important, If you are really using one over the other, remember to answer what do you do with the old one. Be responsible to spend money on the things that you use.

Money spend today is not gained morrow.

Be responsible (even while buying a life insurance) is extremely necessary at this age.   Have said this, I’m going to check out the new Samsung Galaxy 750, Its looks awesome, I think I need it… don’t know why but never mind, I can do all what I want, all what I do, in a new method. (Yeah, thatz the reason).

A bigger touch

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Posted by on September 29, 2011 in Uncategorized


Anger & Love Have No Limits

A man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car.

In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times, not realizing he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father ..with painful eyes he asked “Dad when will my fingers grow back?”

The man was so hurt and speechless. He went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.
Devastated by his own actions sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches, the child had written “I LOVE YOU DAD”.

Somewhere in the Internet, we learn lost lessons.

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Posted by on September 23, 2011 in Stories


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Value of Time (VoT)

Confusing Time's

Confusing Time's

In transport economics, the value of time is the opportunity cost of the time that a traveler spends on his/her journey. In essence, this makes it the amount that a traveler would be willing to pay in order to save time, or the amount they would accept as compensation for lost time.

The article is not about economics, but damm my time.

 Im sure, no one in the world knew better than me the Value of Time (VoT), because everyone uses it and I waste it.

 I don’t work for time.

 At times, I am proud to say it like that, but listen to, how I waste my time.

 It’s a kill.

Sitting in a room from 6:15 PM to next day 9:00 AM, doing nothing.

Nothing to watch,

No one to speak to

Nothing to hear

No friends to share feelings,

No relations to share emotions,

No books to read & write

Just sit in my bed and watch the power go and come all the time, in the dark, inside a wild silence and thousands of thoughts that keep coming round and round my head.

To do this or not, to eat this or not, to smoke or not, to drink or not, then to do what?

Eat What? Smoke What? Drink What? And then to decide on deciding something.

 It’s a kill.

 My family stays 400 miles away from me. I travel each week starting on a Friday 3:00 PM to reach them on a Saturday 8:00 AM and then travel back on starting on Sunday 6:10 PM to reach on Monday 9:00 AM. I have been doing this for a year now, each week, each Friday, each Sunday my travel gets annoying. I keep uploading my phone with 1000 of new tracks just to listen on the travel. Sometimes the music just plays in my ears and my mind keep thinking round and round on the problems I have.

I am stressed, depressed and annoyed of the life what I have now. 

There were several things I use to do on a day when my family was with me.

 Play with my daughter, teach her, learn from her, go hit the gym spend some quality 2 hours, swim, go for a horse ride twice a week, hit a boxing ring once in a week, drink once in a week, see a movie twice in a week and read a book daily. There were even paintings, art, music and taking my family out for shopping that I use to do along with this parallel to my office job that runs from 10:00 to 6:00.

 I dint find time to be a constraint. I never wanted more time to organize myself. I do them in a course, I do them because I had to, I do them because I enjoyed it. Now I have no work, sitting idle all the time, all the time, just to kill it.

 It’s a kill to kill time.

 I am stressed, depressed and annoyed of the life what I have now.

 What do you think, I am? What can I do? – Questions to my virtual friends

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Posted by on September 22, 2011 in Solutions, Time


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He makes you laugh

Over & Over again…

As a lad, I was deeply involved in learning Tamil verses and who else in a city of Madras had impeccable dialogue delivery, a great voice perfectionist, a theatrics and one of the greatest script writers and stage play artist. I have always loved and listened to stage play at all times in my life.

 I have a particular interest in stage plays. The drama with a specific concept goes to make you laugh all the time. The way the voice is delivered will make you recollect the whole scene in your mind and for sure the guy from Mylapore has taken the Tamil arena to a intelligent height that no other known comedian can reach.

 He is special; I would like to add, the great Shri. S.Ve.Shekher. Claps.

  S.Ve.Shekher is a naturalist; I have loved to hear his voice dynamics when it changes. Its cool to hear in the audio than the video. I don’t admire him as much as do in the audio. His drama are unique with punch lines, double meaning and line 2 line comedy, a specialty that only Tamil and Malayalam and Marathi could deliver. I have heard the language slang so rich with minimum and timed breaths. You have to hear it all alone and wait to think and laugh, as a same line has word 2 word comedy, line 2 line meanings and sentence to sentence grouped critics to laugh and enjoy.

 A broader plays that ruled the stage after 2000 were mostly written and thought of post films. Even thought it conveys originality towards stage plays, the story line may be picked up from a running movie.

 His double dialogue deliverable are amazing and prick you sometime not to laugh aloud but understand it with a smile and think it over. S. Ve. Shekar writings are clear indications of the society in his age, the language, the slang and the day to day affairs is reflected deeply in his plays. His plays may not me apt to a family at all times, most of his writings are casual and doesn’t censor what is required few times. This can be seen as a bold writer to deliver scripts. His political or film representations of writings are bold and provides a pun to a date event in time.

 On the movies that he has acted, I don’t admire his acting skills; What ever I have observed him is mostly amateur and looks silly in silver screen.

 Another impressive quality of SVS is that is deeply involved in helping the need and wears a National flag at all times.

 Sir, we thank you from our heart on the unlimited moments you made us smile and laugh. Thanks.


Full Name:       Sattanathapuram Venkataraman Shekhar

In Tamil:              சட்டநாதபுரம் வெங்கடராமன் சேகர்

Birth Date:          26 December 1950


Official Website: Click Here

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Posted by on September 21, 2011 in Personalities


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